burn bridges

/bɜːrn ˈbrɪdʒɪz/

Meaning

This expression means to act in a way that destroys a relationship, path, or opportunity permanently, making it impossible to return to a previous state. It is most commonly used in professional contexts when someone leaves a job on bad terms, or in personal relationships after a final, dramatic argument. The tone is usually cautionary, warning someone not to ruin their future options.

Examples

  • Even if you hate your job, try not to burn bridges when you quit; you might need a reference later.

    Even if you hate your job, try not to burn bridges when you quit; you might need a reference later.

  • She really burned her bridges by insulting the manager on her last day.

    She really burned her bridges by insulting the manager on her last day.

  • I don't want to burn any bridges, so I'll send a polite email declining their offer.

    I don't want to burn any bridges, so I'll send a polite email declining their offer.

  • He burned his bridges with his old friends when he started gossiping about them.

    He burned his bridges with his old friends when he started gossiping about them.

  • Be careful how you handle this disagreement; you don't want to burn your bridges.

    Be careful how you handle this disagreement; you don't want to burn your bridges.

Common Mistakes

  • ✗ I don't want to burn my bridges to this company.

    ✓ I don't want to burn my bridges with this company.

    We burn bridges 'with' a person or organization, not 'to' them.

  • ✗ She burned the bridge with her ex-boss.

    ✓ She burned her bridges with her ex-boss.

    The idiom is almost always plural ('bridges') and usually uses a possessive pronoun like 'her' or 'his' instead of 'the'.

Related Expressions

burn your boatscut tiesbite the hand that feeds you

Practice

  • It's never a good idea to ___ when leaving a job, as the industry is smaller than you think.

    💡 To destroy professional relationships permanently

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    burn bridges

  • He decided to send a polite resignation letter because he didn't want to ___.

    💡 To ruin future opportunities with his current employer

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    burn bridges